Oh please, please, please grant me some sanity for the start up of school again.
Who would think that spending 4 hours in an Elementary Classroom would get me so mentally tired and exhausted. Working an all-nighter from Dallas to a Mexican Resort and back was way easier on my body then school is ;)
How can one balance a certain parenting approach with being faced by the complete opposite from other parents.
Ron and I take pride in the fact that the boys have dealt with their interactions towards each other without being snitches or tattle tales since about age 4.
So when I get told from a teacher that another parent complained to her that 'The Twins' have been chasing her son during recess I pretty much take an issue with this on several points.
For one, how can one chase someone else if that person stops running? If I don't want to be chased I stop. Ron of course looked at me and said 'Isn't running around a huge part of recess?'
Second, I am fed up hearing anyone, parents or fellow school kids accuse 'The Twins'. My boys are two identities and both have very different characters. Most of the time they are not even in the same area during recess or you won't see them next to each other during classes. On top of this they are not looking a like at all anymore. Connor is a good 1 1/2 inches shorter, has a rounder face and a shorter haircut. I do NOT dress them alike in school.
Now I am not taking an issue about anyone calling the boys 'The Twins' when it comes to having a conversations about our kids, just don't accuse one of them and not even know who you are accusing so you take the safe road and just say 'One of the Twins'. Of course as they say some ethnic groups all look the 'same' so I guess twins fall into the same category..... sarcasm here...
So what is wrong with teaching your kids to stand up for themselves? I taught mine and I am NOT telling them to back down because your kids or you as the parent prefer to run to the teacher to complain. I guess it is safer because it is always great to hide behind someones back. Not something I learned and not something I ever want my son's to do.
There is also an interesting feel I have about all this. If there is a complain it seems to come from the shadows and not from a parent that I see involved in school. Maybe if that parent would spend some time in the classroom and observe they would see that none of the kids are little Angels (with the exception of a few) and that yours might very well be one of the instigator! Now wouldn't this be eyeopening?
Everyone that knows me should realize if I see my boys mess up or act in a way that could be hurtful to someone else I will step in and correct their behavior. I am not the parent who says her kids are perfect but I also know that some complains come from kids who have been pushing every possible button on my boys and I am not going to teach my boys to take it.
I am in the back of the classroom watching each Tuesday and Wednesday and many times I see behavior from kids that I find unacceptable BUT it is not my place to say anything nor will I, unless that behavior is pointed towards my son's.
So again, please give me the sanity to keep my mouth shut at school and making sure my boys will be armed with using their words and using their brain, after all the biggest weapon man kind has :)
Good Night,
R A C A
Who would think that spending 4 hours in an Elementary Classroom would get me so mentally tired and exhausted. Working an all-nighter from Dallas to a Mexican Resort and back was way easier on my body then school is ;)
How can one balance a certain parenting approach with being faced by the complete opposite from other parents.
Ron and I take pride in the fact that the boys have dealt with their interactions towards each other without being snitches or tattle tales since about age 4.
So when I get told from a teacher that another parent complained to her that 'The Twins' have been chasing her son during recess I pretty much take an issue with this on several points.
For one, how can one chase someone else if that person stops running? If I don't want to be chased I stop. Ron of course looked at me and said 'Isn't running around a huge part of recess?'
Second, I am fed up hearing anyone, parents or fellow school kids accuse 'The Twins'. My boys are two identities and both have very different characters. Most of the time they are not even in the same area during recess or you won't see them next to each other during classes. On top of this they are not looking a like at all anymore. Connor is a good 1 1/2 inches shorter, has a rounder face and a shorter haircut. I do NOT dress them alike in school.
Now I am not taking an issue about anyone calling the boys 'The Twins' when it comes to having a conversations about our kids, just don't accuse one of them and not even know who you are accusing so you take the safe road and just say 'One of the Twins'. Of course as they say some ethnic groups all look the 'same' so I guess twins fall into the same category..... sarcasm here...
So what is wrong with teaching your kids to stand up for themselves? I taught mine and I am NOT telling them to back down because your kids or you as the parent prefer to run to the teacher to complain. I guess it is safer because it is always great to hide behind someones back. Not something I learned and not something I ever want my son's to do.
There is also an interesting feel I have about all this. If there is a complain it seems to come from the shadows and not from a parent that I see involved in school. Maybe if that parent would spend some time in the classroom and observe they would see that none of the kids are little Angels (with the exception of a few) and that yours might very well be one of the instigator! Now wouldn't this be eyeopening?
Everyone that knows me should realize if I see my boys mess up or act in a way that could be hurtful to someone else I will step in and correct their behavior. I am not the parent who says her kids are perfect but I also know that some complains come from kids who have been pushing every possible button on my boys and I am not going to teach my boys to take it.
I am in the back of the classroom watching each Tuesday and Wednesday and many times I see behavior from kids that I find unacceptable BUT it is not my place to say anything nor will I, unless that behavior is pointed towards my son's.
So again, please give me the sanity to keep my mouth shut at school and making sure my boys will be armed with using their words and using their brain, after all the biggest weapon man kind has :)
Good Night,
R A C A
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