Maybe we are entering the 'Groundhog Day' movie area. It feels like each week is falling into a rhythm of repetition. Connor is still getting Therapy, PT, OT and this week he got his first In Home Care Speech. So maybe we are not quiet in a repetition but getting there.
When it comes to Connor moving he is truly making improvements. The one therapy that did not sound as promising was Speech. To me he sounds so much better but according to his Therapist he has quiet some work ahead of him. This must be the obstacle about being the parent when to yourself your kids of course are perfect. I am still, after five years worrying a bit however if I am the handicap when it comes to their speech due to English being my second language and knowing I don't pronounce everything right either ....
Usually you all have to wait for Sundays when I throw out what has been on my mind :) but this week you get a treat on a Thursday - ha ha :)
When I first started flying with AA in 1996 I was based in Miami and shared a Studio Apartment on South Beach with my class mate Stacey. I found myself one day on my way to work faced with something that rings a bell for me know, 14 years later. I had entered an elevator that was occupied by a young man. I asked when I got in 'How are you?' and was taken back when instead of him telling me 'Fine, Thank you, How are you?' he started to cry and said he was feeling badly because his partner had just broken up with him and that he just was heartbroken. I have to admit that I was not sure how to respond so just told him how sorry I was and that I hope things will work out. I felt strange because I was still fairly new to the country and knowing that 'How are you' is what everyone says, you also always got the response 'I am fine'. Never before had someone taken it literally!
Now for the first time I am confronted, Thanks to our journey with JDM, how washed out it sounds when people out of habit say they are fine. A lot of friends we meet can honestly say to us now that they are not fine and that life is not all one happy day after another BUT they can't say it to friends or people around them that are not touched by some tragic event because for one they don't want to face the truth that you might not be doing well and second because it makes people uncomfortable, just like I was 14 years ago in an elevator faced with a strangers heartbreak.
So from what I have experienced recently I have to say looking back I prefer the honesty I got when faced with my question 14 years ago. I think I much prefer to hear the truth from someone then the customary 'I am Fine'. Granted in the big picture we might all be 'fine' since there is always someone worse of then us but why can I not love my life but still have an off day???
From now on I think we should only ask 'How are You' if we are prepared to listen to the answer and if we rather not then a friendly 'Hello' will do just as well :):):)
Hope your week is going well!
Hugs,
R A C A
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